Goals and Procrastination

How to Avoid Procrastination

I’ve been fascinated (and some might say obsessed) for some time with achievement – or lack of it.

The questions I have been asking myself is:

  • Why are there some things that people just don’t or ‘won’t’ do, even thought they express that they want to?
  • What has people achieve in certain areas of their lives, but they simply remain stuck in others?
  • Do people really ‘procrastinate’ or is it something else.

Whenever I stumble upon a question that I know there’s a simple answer to, I ponder on it, looking for a metaphor that explains it.

What I found astounded me.  I took my own life as an example, using the situation of exercise – or in my case the lack of it.

I asked myself the question, why is it that you can achieve all sorts of things in your life, but this one area remains:

  1. My statement was “I get frustrated because I know exercise is good for me and I need to do it but  ‘I don’t want to exercise’
  2. ‘I don’t want to exercise’ – is this true?
  3. The answers was ‘no’ – which surprised me.  No, actually I ‘do want to exercise’, I really do, but I’m just not doing it!
  4. Ok, then I asked ‘what happens when I believe the thought ‘I don’t want to exercise’?
  5. The answers was simple, ‘I don’t do it’, and I feel as if it’s ‘hard’.
  6. So I actually changed my line of questioning at this point, to:  ‘Is it true that exercise is ‘hard”?
  7. Again the answer to was ‘no’, and it was at that point that I realized the only reason it was ‘hard’ was because I was layering other people’s expectation and rules about what exercise is, or should be, on top of the model I had for exercise.

Let me explain further.  I had always thought that it would be far easier for me to walk with someone else – a walking buddy.  However whenever I did that, I felt as if I had to ‘keep up’.  For those of you that know me, you’ll know that I’m very short, and my legs didn’t miss out of the short quota!  So that means when I walk with others I usually end up sprinting while they ‘walk’.

I realized that if I were to look at my own model of exercise, I would see that exercise doesn’t necessarily mean a marathon run, or that it even has a time limit imposed.  It is merely movement with the goal of feeling vibrant.

I began to see the benefits of movement in my own way and also saw that this gives me fantastic ‘thinking time’, which I love.

So….. since the revelation (my own) that I ‘do want to exercise’.  And layering my own expectations on top, rather that others, I’ve been walking and loving it.

Avoid Procrastination

I don’t actually believe there is such a thing as procrastination.  I also don’t believe there is such a thing as ‘not enough time’ or ‘too lazy’.  Everyone has plenty of time, it’s about chunking your goals into manageable pieces.  My new book (launching in a few weeks) uses a fabulous process for setting and achieving goals that is so simple, anyone can use it.

Initially I hesitated publishing the book because again I layered what I thought ‘other people’s expectations were’ on top, worrying that the process wasn’t ‘big enough’.  But here’s the reality, it’s simplicity is the key to the magic in the process, so watch this space for the book.

In the meantime, you might want to use Byron Katie’s questioning yourself and see what surprising results you get!  www.thework.com


Fiona

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