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If You’re Lacking in Self Confidence, It’s No Laughing Matter – I know I’ve Tried It

When Self Confidence seems to elude you and you look around and everyone else seems to have it by the bucket load, you begin to see every situation as daunting.  Probably, like me, you start to avoid certain people or situations.  You’ll also think you’ll never be able to overcome your low self confidence.

Life is so affected by self confidence (or lack of it).  The outcome of almost every situation you encounter is influenced by how confidence you feel and in turn what you say, do and project because of that level of self confidence.  Here are just a few situations that could leave you with a feeling of dread:

  1. An important business meeting
  2. Parities and social gatherings with new people
  3. Dating
  4. Getting the result you want in your relationships
  5. Joining new groups or hobbies (turning up on the first night)

There are so many situations, where do I begin!

I remember when I was seriously lacking in self confidence, going to parties and I’d try and think of every possible excuse as to why I couldn’t or shouldn’t go.  Even if I went with my husband or friends, that didn’t really help.  Invariably they would see someone they knew and begin a lively conversation.  For a while I could listen but eventually I was so worried about what to say, I would drift off and be standing the corner, waiting for someone, anyone to take pity.

It’s Much More Difficult to Be the Wallflower at Parties

Yes, the above statement is so true.  Now that I’ve gone over the other side and have good level of self confidence and self esteem, I realise just how much effort it took to be the person standing in the corner at parties:

  • I’d worry about what people would thin
  • I’d constantly be trying to think of something witty or intelligent to say or do
  • I’d be forever comparing myself to others

My Top Trick for Overcoming a Lack of Self Confidence

You see, misguidedly I thought I was the one who needed to appear intelligent or who needed to know what to say or do.  I’d read some books and tried some stuff, but none of it had worked.  One big tip I learned – and there are so many tricks and quick things you can do – was that in order to be ‘interesting’, you need to be ‘interested’.  That means being interested in other people, without worrying whether they’re interested in me.

If You’re Reading This Article, It’s Your Turn to Make 2011 the Year to Fulfil Your Bucket List Dream with Massive Self Confidence

If You’re Lacking in Self Confidence, It’s No Laughing Matter – I know I’ve Tried It

When Self Confidence seems to elude you and you look around and everyone else seems to have it by the bucket load, you begin to see every situation as daunting. Probably, like me, you start to avoid certain people or situations. You’ll also think you’ll never be able to overcome your low self confidence.

Life is so affected by self confidence (or lack of it). The outcome of almost every situation you encounter is influenced by how confidence you feel and in turn what you say, do and project because of that level of self confidence. Here are just a few situations that could leave you with a feeling of dread:

- An important business meeting

- Parities and social gatherings with new people

- Dating

- Getting the result you want in your relationships

- Joining new groups or hobbies (turning up on the first night)

There are so many situations, where do I begin!

I remember when I was seriously lacking in self confidence, going to parties and I’d try and think of every possible excuse as to why I couldn’t or shouldn’t go. Even if I went with my husband or friends, that didn’t really help. Invariably they would see someone they knew and begin a lively conversation. For a while I could listen but eventually I was so worried about what to say, I would drift off and be standing the corner, waiting for someone, anyone to take pity.

It’s Much More Difficult to Be the Wallflower at Parties

Yes, the above statement is so true. Now that I’ve gone over the other side and have good level of self confidence and self esteem, I realise just how much effort it took to be the person standing in the corner at parties:

- I’d worry about what people would thin

- I’d constantly be trying to think of something witty or intelligent to say or do

- I’d be forever comparing myself to others

My Top Trick for Overcoming a Lack of Self Confidence

You see, misguidedly I thought I was the one who needed to appear intelligent or who needed to know what to say or do. I’d read some books and tried some stuff, but none of it had worked. One big tip I learned – and there are so many tricks and quick things you can do – was that in order to be ‘interesting’, you need to be ‘interested’. That means being interested in other people, without worrying whether they’re interested in me.

If You’re Reading This Article, It’s Your Turn

If You’re Lacking in Self Confidence, It’s No Laughing Matter – I know I’ve Tried It

When Self Confidence seems to elude you and you look around and everyone else seems to have it by the bucket load, you begin to see every situation as daunting.  Probably, like me, you start to avoid certain people or situations.  You’ll also think you’ll never be able to overcome your low self confidence.

Life is so affected by self confidence (or lack of it).  The outcome of almost every situation you encounter is influenced by how confidence you feel and in turn what you say, do and project because of that level of self confidence.  Here are just a few situations that could leave you with a feeling of dread:

-  An important business meeting

-  Parities and social gatherings with new people

-  Dating

-  Getting the result you want in your relationships

-  Joining new groups or hobbies (turning up on the first night)

There are so many situations, where do I begin!

I remember when I was seriously lacking in self confidence, going to parties and I’d try and think of every possible excuse as to why I couldn’t or shouldn’t go.  Even if I went with my husband or friends, that didn’t really help.  Invariably they would see someone they knew and begin a lively conversation.  For a while I could listen but eventually I was so worried about what to say, I would drift off and be standing the corner, waiting for someone, anyone to take pity.

It’s Much More Difficult to Be the Wallflower at Parties

Yes, the above statement is so true.  Now that I’ve gone over the other side and have good level of self confidence and self esteem, I realise just how much effort it took to be the person standing in the corner at parties:

-   I’d worry about what people would thin

-  I’d constantly be trying to think of something witty or intelligent to say or do

-  I’d be forever comparing myself to others

My Top Trick for Overcoming a Lack of Self Confidence

You see, misguidedly I thought I was the one who needed to appear intelligent or who needed to know what to say or do.  I’d read some books and tried some stuff, but none of it had worked.  One big tip I learned – and there are so many tricks and quick things you can do – was that in order to be ‘interesting’, you need to be ‘interested’.  That means being interested in other people, without worrying whether they’re interested in me.

If You’re Reading This Article, It’s Your Turn to Make 2011 the Year to Fulfil Your Bucket List Dream with Massive Self Confidence

Make your New Year a Brand New Start, Overcome Your Lack of Self Confidence Once and For All – You Deserve To Put Yourself First <a target=”_new” href=”http://www.fionachristie.info”>click on this link</a> to begin your journey to the new self confident you. <a target=”_new” href=”http://www.fionachristie.info”>Obtain Self Confidence Easily</a>

to Make 2011 the Year to Fulfil Your Bucket List Dream with Massive Self Confidence

Make your New Year a Brand New Start, Overcome Your Lack of Self Confidence Once and For All – You Deserve To Put Yourself First <a target=”_new” href=”http://www.fionachristie.info”>click on this link</a> to begin your journey to the new self confident you. <a target=”_new” href=”http://www.fionachristie.info”>Obtain Self Confidence Easily</a>

Make your New Year a Brand New Start, Overcome Your Lack of Self Confidence Once and For All – You Deserve To Put Yourself First click on this link to begin your journey to the new self confident you. Obtain Self Confidence Easily


Fiona

Affirmations

I love this video.  It’s called Jessica’s Daily Affirmations. Imagine adults with that sort of self-belief – enjoy:


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Fiona Christie Blog

Welcome to my blog.  Here you’ll find useful tips, information, insights and my ramblings to help you in your quest development.

I’ve created seven categories that form the basis of my coaching, I’ll also be adding ‘tags’ so you can search for specific topics.

Here’s a metaphor to explain categories and tags using the grocery store:

  • A ‘category’ is like an aisle sign post in the supermarket.  So down aisle number 3 you might find breakfast cereals.  Breakfast cereals would be a ‘category’
  • A ‘tag’ is the particular type of cereal.  For example ‘breakfast oats’ or ‘muesli’.  Or it could be the ‘brand’ of cereal.

So the category is the product type, and the tag is the flavor or brand.

Fiona Christie

Here’s you’ll find my ramblings.  I decided I wanted a way to talk about my progress, my insights, my learnings along the way.  It’s a space where I can let you know what I’m up to, I can share my ‘aha’ moments.

Money and You

This category is where I’ll share insights about:

  • the psychology of money
  • why we do what we do with it
  • Why some people have it and some don’t
  • Strategies that can  help you have more of it
  • Share some great money programs with you that can help you on your quest to becoming forever financially free

Personal Development

This is where I’ll share the gems that lie beneath the surface of what creates great happiness, fulfillment and achievement.  Personal Development has changed my life and continues to do so.

Professional Development

There is where I’ll share some of my techniques.  I’ll also discuss various professional development topics, what’s hot, what’s not.

Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice – most people assume this relates to ‘love relationships’.  Yes it does, but it also relates to relationships we have with ourselves, with our money, with our careers, with the people in our lives.  Originally, the header for my website was going to state that I specialized in ‘Relationship Development’ but I realized that people would assume I meant ‘love relationships’ only.  And whilst one part of my business works with people looking to improve, begin or leave a love relationship, it is far more than that.  So here you’ll find wisdom and insights into how to ‘do’ relationships better.

Feel free to use the code attached to the ‘grab this button’ on the sidebar if you want to link to my website.

Enjoy!

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You Can Heal Your Life – the Movie

You Can Heal Your Life: The Movie: Extended Version (includes 60 Minutes of Bonus Material)You Can Heal Your Life – The Movie is really so much more than the book.  If you’ve read Louise Hay’s book by the same name, don’t be fooled that the DVD is just the book read out.  It’s not.

The movie is so much more and includes an impressive lineup cast:

  • Louise Hay
  • Dr Wayne Dyer
  • Gregg Braden
  • Cheryl Richardson
  • Esther and Jerry Hicks
  • Doreen Virtue
  • Candace B. Pert
  • Mona Lisa Schulz
  • Christiane Northrup
  • Gay Hendricks
  • Leon Nacson

That line up alone should be enough to have you excited.  It’s one of the most inspiration and life changing DVDs anyone can watch.  You can view the synopsis of it by clicking on this link You Can Heal Your Life: The Movie: Extended Version (includes 60 Minutes of Bonus Material)

Many of my clients have watched this DVD, either in my office, or with their own copy, and have found the interviews to, in some cases, have life changing results.

Gregg Braden was someone I hadn’t heard of before watching the DVD.  He’s definitely compelling that’s for sure.  It’s really interesting to see the mix of:

  • Life Coach
  • Psychiatrist
  • Spiritual Healer
  • Psychologist
  • Gynecologist
  • Counseling psychology

If you’re looking for answers and want to enhance your level of happiness and connection, check out the DVD above.


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Self Esteem, Can You Create It?

Self Esteem, I believe is aptly named.  It’s two words the most important one being ‘self’.

Yes, you can create a strong sense of self esteem.  With a bit of practice and some great coaching you can definitely create a greater sense of self.

Most people I’ve come across who have a low sense of self esteem, spending a lot of their time focusing inwards.  For example, the following phrases will be high in their vocabulary:

  • What will they think of me
  • But what will people think
  • I’m not good enough
  • I couldn’t join in the conversation
  • I’m not confident enough

Notice how all of these phrases focus on ‘self’.

Having suffered from low self esteem myself a long time ago, I understand what it’s like.

Often people who have a low self esteem will be found in the corners at parties or social gatherings.  What people don’t realize is it is much harder work to maintain a level of low self esteem than it is to have great self esteem.  Why?

Because people with low self esteem spend a lot of time in their ‘heads’ worrying about what others think.  Their stress levels are higher and they tend to focus solely inwards and are, generally speaking, not that happy with their situation.

On the other hand, people who focus outwards, don’t have those worries.  It’s much easier being social at gatherings than it is being the wall flower – trust me, I’ve been both!

So, if it’s possible to create a sense of great self esteem, how do you go about it?

One of the first steps would be to begin to focus ‘outwards’ instead of ‘inwards’.  Become ‘interested’ in others.  Here’s an example of the two scenarios at play:

Step One – Dialogue

Low Self Esteem Dialogue:

  • I hate coming to parties, it’s so hard.
  • No one wants to talk to me.
  • I don’t have anything to contribute, they’ll just think I’m stupid.
  • Look at that woman over there, she’s staring at me, oh no, I should never have worn this fitting dress!

Great Self Esteem Dialogue:

  • I wonder if I’ll meet some interesting people at this party.
  • Oh look, there’s someone who looks interesting, I’ll go and introduce myself to them.
  • It’s so interesting hearing about other people’s lives, and I learn something new every time.
  • I might even get a chance to talk about that new movie I saw the other day
  • Oh, that woman seems to be taking an interest in my outfit, I’m so glad I bought it!

Can you see that one of the internal dialogues is focused solely inwards, the other outwards.

Step Two – Affirmations, doing them the right way

The next step would be to practice some affirmations.  BUT before you begin, there’s no point in saying affirmations over and over, if you don’t believe them.

So how do you believe something that you find ‘unbelievable’?  The best way I know is to begin with visualizations.  An easy time to do them is before you go to sleep at night and when you wake up in the morning.  Mainly because going to bed and getting up is something you do every day.  Spend five minutes imagining yourself having great conversations.  Imagining yourself being interested in others.  Imagining yourself being confident.

Once you’ve done that for a while, it’s time to add some verbal affirmations.  These are short, sharp, positive statements about yourself.  Here’s a few to get you started – I usually try and make mine rhyme so they’re easier to remember:

  1. Every day in every way I relate better and better
  2. My confidence builds with ease
  3. I love talking to people and always get great results

There are many possibilities for affirmations.  It does take time, the secret is to keep doing it.  There are more steps to the process but that’s a starting point for you.  You might consider some personal coaching, visit the contact me page to see how personal coaching can make an enormous difference to your self esteem.


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Decisions made easy

Decisions don’t have to be hard!

Yes, you did read that correctly, making decisions can become an easy process, there are a few ‘rules’ or ‘tricks’ to becoming a quick decision maker and moving on to the next thing in your life.  More to come on this post shortly…

Decisions come easy when you believe in your power to make decisions


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Choice to Change?

Change is a Choice

Change that we are comfortable with only happens when we consciously ‘choose’ to make change.

Many a person has said ‘but that wasn’t my ‘choice’.  I beg to differ… we have the opportunity to ‘choose’ how we act or react in any given situation.  And whilst some ‘change’ is made for us (for example a restructure at work, followed by redundancy), we have a choice as to how we view it and what actions we take as a result of that decision.

My aim with these blog posts is to share some personal development strategies that I have found work in my own life and for my clients, I trust you find them useful in yours.


Fiona