I’ll Worry About That Later

Be Careful what you say…

‘I’ll Worry About That Later’, is that a phrase that enters your vocabulary?  It’s time to change…

Given whatever we focus our attention on, we attract more of, the statement ‘I’ll Worry About That Later’, is not something I’d want to be focusing any of my attention on.

Generally, people utter this as a fly away comment when they haven’t finished doing something or need to make a decision but haven’t got time.

‘Worry’ about that later… guess what you do when you finally get around to thinking or doing something about it?  The trouble is, in between times you also ‘worry’:

  • you worry about when you might complete the task
  • you worry that you might not get it done on time
  • you worry what others might think
  • you worry you can’t afford it
  • you worry you’ll never get to the end of it

That’s a heck of a lot of worry time.  Imagine if you re-channeled all that worry time into something productive?  You’d probably have the task completed by now….

Let your worries go, just drop them.  Imagine your worries are a small piece of paper.  Now imagine holding it out in front of you, what do you have to do to ‘drop’ that piece of paper – that’s right – you just have a ‘let it go’ and it falls effortlessly to the ground.

It’s the same with letting go of worries.  It then leaves room for you to become constructive and creative.  You’re more likely to find answers.

Worry-less, Achieve-more.


Fiona

Taking Time for Your Soul – Mediation

Right now I’m on holiday in the wonderful town of Nelson, New Zealand.  I love this place and I’m reminded how important it is to ‘take time for your soul’.

I’ve recently been focussing a renewed attention on meditation.  I’m reading Kelvin Cruickshank’s book and it is reminding me that anyone is capable of connecting with spirit.

Meditation has so many benefits, most of them you can’t ‘see’, however your life will flow and everything will, seemingly without effort, follow the right path.

I drove from Christchurch to Nelson on Friday 15th, beautiful drive, how wonderful this country is.  Before that I was on holiday in Queenstown, seeing the wonderful Mount Cook on the way.  When you visit the South Island you can’t help but feel connected with the land, with the spirit that this wonderful country holds.

I wanted to post an article today reminding everything to bring meditation into your daily life.  Meditation is as simple as being ‘still’, a simple way to start is to just focus on your breath, in and out.  Ask for protection and guidance before you begin and I often like to have a ‘intention’ for the meditation before I begin too, asking my spirit guides to help me with whatever intention it is I have for my life at that time.

Meditation is not some ‘woo woo’ weird thing, it’s been practised for countless years, give it a try, find a meditation group near you.

Till next time, relax, enjoy and have fun!


Fiona

The Power of Intention

Where Attention Goes, Energy Flows

What if you could use your thoughts to create whatever you wanted in your life?  I was reminded about this powerful personal development wonder the other day.  Whenever you focus your attention or ‘intention’, fully and completely on whatever it is you want to manifest in your life, you will begin to see examples of the subject you have chosen to focus on everywhere.

I was facilitating a budget program yesterday and gave the participants the example of my bright yellow car.

Some years ago I was in the market to replace my car, so I went looking in the car yards with my friend’s husband who is a mechanic by trade.  We saw a bright yellow Honda Logo.  I wasn’t that fussed on the car at first, but once I sat in it, and realized I could raise the seat up I was sold (you can probably guess by now that I’m fairly short).

Anyway, I hadn’t heard of Honda Logo’s before I purchased the car, let alone seen a yellow one.  Once I drove out of the car yard, I began to see Honda Logo’s everywhere.  Not only that, but I saw yellow ones everywhere.  Those cars were there before, but I hadn’t seen them.  Why?  I’ll explain more.

Also, my friends began to see them everywhere as well.  They would often say to me – “I saw you driving your car the other day, waved out, and you didn’t wave back”.  When I questioned where they had seen me, I informed them it actually wasn’t me, but another yellow Honda Logo”.

Reticular Activating System

The reason we began seeing them everywhere is due to the Reticular Activating System, or RAS for short.  It’s the part of the brain that acts like a filter.  It filters out information for us.

It is said human beings have roughly 60,000 thoughts every day.  Now we can’t possible give those 60,000 thoughts our full attention, so we filter out what’s most important to us.

Science now confirms that our thoughts are magnetic in nature, so whatever we focus on, we will get more of.  That’s why it’s no mistake or coincidence when you are thinking about an old friend who you haven’t seen for a couple of years, suddenly the phone rings and it’s them.

Whenever I’m having a bad day, I remind myself to re-focus my intention and attention on what I want to create, rather than on what I don’t want, and my day instantly improves.

Try it, you might be pleasantly surprised.


Fiona

Affirmations

I love this video.  It’s called Jessica’s Daily Affirmations. Imagine adults with that sort of self-belief – enjoy:


Fiona

Overcoming Procrastination Achievement and Goal Setting

One of the most critical factors to attaining the life of your dreams is in the Art of Noticing. You see it is the art of noticing that will lead you to clarity.

The art of noticing is really invaluable in three ways:

  1. To guide you in your decision-making
  2. To highlight the valuable lessons that lie in decisions that didn’t quite ‘fit’ with your desired outcomes
  3. It highlights where you need to make changes in your life

People make choices and decisions every day, sometimes they are great decisions and they lead them towards their desired outcome, however sometimes the decision doesn’t quite ‘fit’ with their future goal. Where people get stuck is that they fail to ‘notice’, stop and ask themselves if a particular decision, thought, conversation or action was useful.

It is in the art of noticing that the greatest lessons can be learned. So how do you use this powerful simple tool in your life?

Here’s some action step you may want to being with.

Think back over the last couple of years of your life. Note down any instances or decisions that:

  • Did not leave you with a sense of joy
  • Did not lead you towards your desired outcome
  • Seem to be a repeat pattern in your life

What did you notice about them at the time, or did you just move on with your life?  Now that you are looking at the situation from afar, is there anything you notice which, if you altered your thoughts or actions, could change the way you act in the future? Or could change the way you ‘view’ or ‘see’ what happened?

The secret that many have not yet discovered is – you cannot ‘change’ anyone else, you can only ‘change’ how you ‘see’ them, or how you ‘see’ a situation.


Fiona

Goals and Procrastination

How to Avoid Procrastination

I’ve been fascinated (and some might say obsessed) for some time with achievement – or lack of it.

The questions I have been asking myself is:

  • Why are there some things that people just don’t or ‘won’t’ do, even thought they express that they want to?
  • What has people achieve in certain areas of their lives, but they simply remain stuck in others?
  • Do people really ‘procrastinate’ or is it something else.

Whenever I stumble upon a question that I know there’s a simple answer to, I ponder on it, looking for a metaphor that explains it.

What I found astounded me.  I took my own life as an example, using the situation of exercise – or in my case the lack of it.

I asked myself the question, why is it that you can achieve all sorts of things in your life, but this one area remains:

  1. My statement was “I get frustrated because I know exercise is good for me and I need to do it but  ‘I don’t want to exercise’
  2. ‘I don’t want to exercise’ – is this true?
  3. The answers was ‘no’ – which surprised me.  No, actually I ‘do want to exercise’, I really do, but I’m just not doing it!
  4. Ok, then I asked ‘what happens when I believe the thought ‘I don’t want to exercise’?
  5. The answers was simple, ‘I don’t do it’, and I feel as if it’s ‘hard’.
  6. So I actually changed my line of questioning at this point, to:  ‘Is it true that exercise is ‘hard”?
  7. Again the answer to was ‘no’, and it was at that point that I realized the only reason it was ‘hard’ was because I was layering other people’s expectation and rules about what exercise is, or should be, on top of the model I had for exercise.

Let me explain further.  I had always thought that it would be far easier for me to walk with someone else – a walking buddy.  However whenever I did that, I felt as if I had to ‘keep up’.  For those of you that know me, you’ll know that I’m very short, and my legs didn’t miss out of the short quota!  So that means when I walk with others I usually end up sprinting while they ‘walk’.

I realized that if I were to look at my own model of exercise, I would see that exercise doesn’t necessarily mean a marathon run, or that it even has a time limit imposed.  It is merely movement with the goal of feeling vibrant.

I began to see the benefits of movement in my own way and also saw that this gives me fantastic ‘thinking time’, which I love.

So….. since the revelation (my own) that I ‘do want to exercise’.  And layering my own expectations on top, rather that others, I’ve been walking and loving it.

Avoid Procrastination

I don’t actually believe there is such a thing as procrastination.  I also don’t believe there is such a thing as ‘not enough time’ or ‘too lazy’.  Everyone has plenty of time, it’s about chunking your goals into manageable pieces.  My new book (launching in a few weeks) uses a fabulous process for setting and achieving goals that is so simple, anyone can use it.

Initially I hesitated publishing the book because again I layered what I thought ‘other people’s expectations were’ on top, worrying that the process wasn’t ‘big enough’.  But here’s the reality, it’s simplicity is the key to the magic in the process, so watch this space for the book.

In the meantime, you might want to use Byron Katie’s questioning yourself and see what surprising results you get!  www.thework.com


Fiona