Fiona Christie Blog

Welcome to my blog.  Here you’ll find useful tips, information, insights and my ramblings to help you in your quest development.

I’ve created seven categories that form the basis of my coaching, I’ll also be adding ‘tags’ so you can search for specific topics.

Here’s a metaphor to explain categories and tags using the grocery store:

  • A ‘category’ is like an aisle sign post in the supermarket.  So down aisle number 3 you might find breakfast cereals.  Breakfast cereals would be a ‘category’
  • A ‘tag’ is the particular type of cereal.  For example ‘breakfast oats’ or ‘muesli’.  Or it could be the ‘brand’ of cereal.

So the category is the product type, and the tag is the flavor or brand.

Fiona Christie

Here’s you’ll find my ramblings.  I decided I wanted a way to talk about my progress, my insights, my learnings along the way.  It’s a space where I can let you know what I’m up to, I can share my ‘aha’ moments.

Money and You

This category is where I’ll share insights about:

  • the psychology of money
  • why we do what we do with it
  • Why some people have it and some don’t
  • Strategies that can  help you have more of it
  • Share some great money programs with you that can help you on your quest to becoming forever financially free

Personal Development

This is where I’ll share the gems that lie beneath the surface of what creates great happiness, fulfillment and achievement.  Personal Development has changed my life and continues to do so.

Professional Development

There is where I’ll share some of my techniques.  I’ll also discuss various professional development topics, what’s hot, what’s not.

Relationship Advice

Relationship Advice – most people assume this relates to ‘love relationships’.  Yes it does, but it also relates to relationships we have with ourselves, with our money, with our careers, with the people in our lives.  Originally, the header for my website was going to state that I specialized in ‘Relationship Development’ but I realized that people would assume I meant ‘love relationships’ only.  And whilst one part of my business works with people looking to improve, begin or leave a love relationship, it is far more than that.  So here you’ll find wisdom and insights into how to ‘do’ relationships better.

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Enjoy!

Fiona Christie - Professional and Personal Development


Fiona

Looking After My Own Needs

Do you often put other people’s needs and demands above your own?  I think everyone does that at some point in their life.  The key to changing the habit is to first notice you’re doing it.

I was in that realization place recently.  Putting myself first is something I’ve become brilliant at with a lot of practice, however it rears its head from time to time.  When I noticed it recently, I asked myself some critical questions:

  1. Was the situation really about getting my needs met?
  2. Was it always to do with ‘time’?
  3. Did I think it was about not valuing myself, or something else?
  4. Was I putting their needs above my own for a specific reason, or was I just not honoring myself?
  5. What time limit was I giving myself to figure the above out?

Situations like the one described above tend to rear their head in multiples.  That is, I’ll notice for a whole day I tend to put others first.  It’s usually linked to time as well.  So for example, I might be finishing off some work with someone and keep going instead of finishing early to give myself enough time to get to the all important coffee and catchup with my friend.   I then arrive late, which impacts not just me, but my friend as well.

So when that starts to happen, I sit up and take notice.

So, what can I do about it?  After I’ve noticed, I can then evaluate the situations that happened over the day and also look back over the last couple of weeks and find out where it began, plus if there were any unusual circumstances.

I’ve begun using the ‘reminders’ option in my mobile phone as a great way of keeping to time when I need to remember to do something.  Today though I didn’t set any reminders.  So I figured out having a ‘jogger’ to jog my memory about the important things to me is a great idea.

They say it takes 30 days to change a habit, I reckon it’s immediate if you notice, then put something in place that’s repetitious to ensure you keep doing something different.

What that means for me is, when I know a situation is coming up and there’s a possibility I won’t value my time over someone else’s time, I’ll set my ‘reminder’ to let me know it’s time to quit out of the situation I’m in and step into looking after my own needs and time.

 


Fiona

I’ll Worry About That Later

Be Careful what you say…

‘I’ll Worry About That Later’, is that a phrase that enters your vocabulary?  It’s time to change…

Given whatever we focus our attention on, we attract more of, the statement ‘I’ll Worry About That Later’, is not something I’d want to be focusing any of my attention on.

Generally, people utter this as a fly away comment when they haven’t finished doing something or need to make a decision but haven’t got time.

‘Worry’ about that later… guess what you do when you finally get around to thinking or doing something about it?  The trouble is, in between times you also ‘worry’:

  • you worry about when you might complete the task
  • you worry that you might not get it done on time
  • you worry what others might think
  • you worry you can’t afford it
  • you worry you’ll never get to the end of it

That’s a heck of a lot of worry time.  Imagine if you re-channeled all that worry time into something productive?  You’d probably have the task completed by now….

Let your worries go, just drop them.  Imagine your worries are a small piece of paper.  Now imagine holding it out in front of you, what do you have to do to ‘drop’ that piece of paper – that’s right – you just have a ‘let it go’ and it falls effortlessly to the ground.

It’s the same with letting go of worries.  It then leaves room for you to become constructive and creative.  You’re more likely to find answers.

Worry-less, Achieve-more.


Fiona

Giving Without Expectation

Fairy Duster Glimpse (4 of 4)First We Must Give

and then, and only then…. will we receive

The hardest concept for most people is to let go of their expectation; and

    • Letting go of your expectation of the outcome.  Being attached is another way of putting it
  • Everything will come once you give up your need for attachment to the outcome
  • At the same time, shift your thoughts towards what you want and away from what you don’t want
  • Be still and allow yourself to meditate every day asking for help and protection from within
  • Stay focused on your goals
  • Move away (distance yourself) from those that do not support you in the way you need to be supported
  • Make choices based on your intuition (your gut feelings) that support and set you up to head towards the life of your dreams

Fiona

Finding Yourself

Big BubbleDo You Want Your Life to Flow With Ease?

Once you allow yourself quality stillness, your life with flow with ease.  Time for meditation, connecting with the God/presence/spirit within you.

When you are able to do that on a regular basis, you will fin a freedom that many dream of and few reach.

If you’ve followed my blog, then you’ll know there are some clear steps along the way and if you follow these, every day, you’ll begin to receive exactly what you want:

  1. Live with intention (the power of intention)
  2. The Laws of Attraction
  3. Every day asking for what you want and giving thanks for what you have
  4. Giving of yourself to others freely, without expectation

Fiona

Taking Time for Your Soul – Mediation

Right now I’m on holiday in the wonderful town of Nelson, New Zealand.  I love this place and I’m reminded how important it is to ‘take time for your soul’.

I’ve recently been focussing a renewed attention on meditation.  I’m reading Kelvin Cruickshank’s book and it is reminding me that anyone is capable of connecting with spirit.

Meditation has so many benefits, most of them you can’t ‘see’, however your life will flow and everything will, seemingly without effort, follow the right path.

I drove from Christchurch to Nelson on Friday 15th, beautiful drive, how wonderful this country is.  Before that I was on holiday in Queenstown, seeing the wonderful Mount Cook on the way.  When you visit the South Island you can’t help but feel connected with the land, with the spirit that this wonderful country holds.

I wanted to post an article today reminding everything to bring meditation into your daily life.  Meditation is as simple as being ‘still’, a simple way to start is to just focus on your breath, in and out.  Ask for protection and guidance before you begin and I often like to have a ‘intention’ for the meditation before I begin too, asking my spirit guides to help me with whatever intention it is I have for my life at that time.

Meditation is not some ‘woo woo’ weird thing, it’s been practised for countless years, give it a try, find a meditation group near you.

Till next time, relax, enjoy and have fun!


Fiona